Affairs of the Heart.

Until the Internet came along, discussions of affairs of the heart were few and far between. Since then, they have become one of the most controversial topics of conversation by the young and old alike, married or single, rich or poor.

Seemingly intelligent and successful people get on the Internet and they leave their real life relationships and their common sense at the door. They are so involved in their virtual affairs, that they take no heed of the damage they are doing to their real relationships.

The debate has always been that it takes nothing away from the relationships they have and it's an inexpensive and enjoyable pastime. If this were just a message board where hundreds of people were posting their points of view, it might hold water. But these virtual relationships, once they take off, become a very powerful force and not easy to walk away from.

Spouses are more threatened by an affair of the heart than an actual affair. An affair has its parameters; squeezing in visits whenever possible whereas an affair of the heart, conducted via the Internet, requires no face-to-face meeting and can be arranged at the last minute, at any time of the day or night, or just consist of emails and IMs. Phone calls and text messages are more easily traced, but once people have gotten to that stage, they are almost ready to go to the next level, an actual affair.

Consider the woman who puts on her sexiest nightgown in hopes of enticing her husband to make love with her and, every time she tries to get him to come to bed, he tells her he'll be there in just a minute. Hours later, he is still on the Internet talking to his virtual lover.

Then, there is the man who waits for his wife to come to bed and she is so engrossed in emailing and IMing her virtual lover, that she hardly pays any attention to her husband when he tries to get her to shut off her computer for the night.

Many relationships have ended because the partner feels neglected and can't fight the unseen competition. For those who think an affair of the heart takes nothing away from a person's real relationship, they have never had to compete with a computer for their spouse's attention.

Computers, in and of themselves, can be very addictive, especially if someone has an addictive personality. Factor in an affair of the heart and that person is so hooked that he can't live a normal life. Everything revolves around getting online, staying online, being part of an online community, and building online relationships.

Even if a person does not have an addictive personality, an online affair of the heart can become an addiction that is no easier to break than alcohol or drugs.

Take away someone's computer, take away his community of online friends, take away his virtual lover, and you will see him go through the same physical and emotional withdrawal symptoms as if he were in rehab. If he begins to see this as an addiction and wants to break it, he may have to go cold turkey because there are too many outside influences that could drag him back in.

Hilarious!!! Couples tell each other how many people they've slept with.

Elite Daily brought some couples together and asked them that very uncomfortable question: 'How many people have you slept with?'

 

Sure, you probably already know your boyfriend/girlfriend isn't a virgin, but have you ever wondered how many people they've been with before you?

Worst still, have you ever asked? What was their reaction?

Elite Daily brought some couples together and asked them that very uncomfortable question: 'How many people have you slept with?'

As expected, the participants were surprised by the question, and each couple reacted differently.

Some were quite open about it, and they all had different experience. But some people just didn't even want to know.

Click link to watch video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=hkxjuznXLP0

Kaffy - Dance queen loses her mum

Popular dancer Kaffy mourns the loss of her darling mother who passed away recently.

Nigerian professional dancer Kaffy, real name Kafayat Shafau-Ameh took to Instagram to mourn the loss of her darling mother.

She wrote an emotional poem about the death of her mum saying

 

 "......I remember every smile
I remember every wink of your eye
I remember how u move and turn heads in parties
I remember how heavy u were with my brother in your womb yet u organized d best one year birthday for me.
I remember the good,the bad ,the wealth of experience.
I remember a lot more than tears will allow my shaking hands write
And I thank you ,for everything has made me who I am today.
It hurts that this day has come sooner than expected but God knows best.
Rest well as you are now in His care forever.
Goodbye Mum
My dance queen
#RIP"

Kaffy who is a fitness coach, dancer and Guinness World record holder is married with 2 children.

We commiserate with her for her loss.

Real madrid Survive Schalke Scare to Reach UCL Last 8

Real Madrid managed through to their fifth successive Uefa Champions League quarter-final despite conceding four away goals at the hands of Schalke 04 on Tuesday.

The title holders advanced from the second round on account of their 2-0 away win at the German  side as an impressive display of hearts saw visitors Schalke force a 4-3 victory at the Santiago Bernebeu, but the day still went to the hosts 5-4 on aggregate.

Schalke twice led in Madrid through Christian Fuchs and ex-Real man Klaas-Jan Huntelaar, but Cristiano Ronaldo twice pulled back for his team with a header. 

  
Christian Fuchs Celebrates after Opening Scoring for Schalke 04 at the Santiago Bernebeu

Karim Benzema forced issues with a third goal for Carlo Ancelotti’s side after the break before Leroy Sane and Huntelaar scored to help the Royal Blues lose out with pride and end Real’s 21-match unbeaten home run in the Champions League.
 

        Karim Benzema Placed Real Madrid in the Lead After the Break.

Fifa Ballon d’Or holder Ronaldo became the Champions League’s record scorer with 76 goals from his two headed goals, one ahead of Barcelona’s Lionel Mess, who returns in a last-16 game next week at home to Manchester City.

ISIS - Ex-member confirms Jihadi John's identity, describes group's modus operandi

The ISIS defector revealed that Emwazi is employed as the chief killer of foreign hostages for Islamic State's media wing.

An ISIS defector has confirmed the identity of Jihadi John to be Mohammed Emwazi. This is according to Sky News.

Sky news reports that the ISIS defector who is a former news translator told the news channel that he witnessed the man known as Jihadi John murder Japanese hostage Kenji Goto.

He further said that Emwazi is employed as the chief killer of foreign hostages for Islamic State's media wing and that his murderous influence among the group is feared and respected.

Speaking from his Turkey hideout, where he fled to escape IS, the ex-ISIS member explained in broken English how Kenji was murdered and also gave some insight as to why Emwazi has come to be so influential within the group.

"When he killed Kenji Goto I live showed this [saw this] but not near, from a little [distance]. After he was killed him, three or four person come and take over the body and put in a car. After that, John went on a different road. The big boss was there with them. Turkish man say 'put this camera there, change place there' but John [was] the big boss. All time, all time say to all 'fastly, fastly, fastly, we should finish'. So respect him. Only he talks orders – others do."

He said further:
"Maybe because he use the knife, I cannot understand why he is so strong. One man can kill and all people will respect. A Syrian man anyone [in IS] can kill. But strangers [foreigners], only John."

He is the only person to admit seeing Emwazi kill.

CHECK OUT 5 TALKING POINTS AS WENGERS BOYS DEFEATS VAN GAALS MEN.

1. The momentum is now with Wenger’s boys

Before this barn-burner of a contest Louis van Gaal said: “What’s the plan? That we beat Arsenal. Arsenal are one of the best teams in the Premier League but I have noticed that they have played more defensively lately.
With a lot of success.” By the close the Gunners had been anything but negative and were savouring a victory that keeps the dream of retaining the FA Cup alive and is the perfect fillip as they seek to finish in the top four yet again.
United, though, have only the quest for a Champions League berth remaining. “A win this evening would be perfect for us to go into the run of tough games that we have coming up,” said Van Gaal, whose side face Tottenham Hotspur, Liverpool, Manchester City and Chelsea in four of the next five matches. Now comes a test of character for the Dutchman’s United.

2. Di María sees red to spoil what had been a good performance

After reports the British record £59.7m signing may be unsettled came the first question on precisely this subject in the programme, to which he said: “I feel really good here. I’m very happy. A lot of players speak Spanish and that was very important when I arrived.”
There cannot have been too much contentment at being hooked in the last two matches – at half-time and on 59 minutes - and, by the 76th minute of this outing Di María’s mood was even darker when being sent off by Michael Oliver. Before this the Argentinian had caused serious problems. A swift cut inside and pinpoint ball in-behind Arsenal – this one found Marouane Fellaini – proved a warm-up for the first of many including the sweet left-foot cross that allowed Wayne Rooney to head the equaliser. And though he showed why Van Gaal can be frustrated with him when losing possession to Santi Cazorla this threatened to be Di María’s best display of recent memory – until he received his marching orders.

3. Fellaini emerges as one of Van Gaal’s main men

The Belgian’s emergence under the manager is this season’s United selection surprise as he again forced £80m of elite football talent in Radamel Falcao (cost, £43m if United want him permanently) and Juan Mata (a £37.1m buy) out of the team, Fellaini doing so for a consecutive match. As in last Wednesday evening’s 1-0 victory at Newcastle Van Gaal decided that in the absence of the injured Robin van Persie United should have a lone striker in Rooney, who would be supported by the big-haired midfielder-auxiliary forward. As can be the case Fellaini’s offering was a mixed-bag. When put through by Chris Smalling near Wojciech Szczesny’s goal he failed to shoot and ended careering and sliding around like a novice ice-skater. But there was also smart movement and the ability to break Arsenal’s lines by drifting in behind, and the target presented by his head and chest for Di María and company to find with aerial balls.

4. Welbeck makes a triumphant Old Trafford return

The former favourite son of this parish made a first return to Old Trafford in Arsenal livery since his £16m transfer last summer. Not for the first time in his career Welbeck arrived in need of a goal, having last scored on 28 December. With only seven strikes all campaign for Wenger’s team the forward, who is still only 24, has not always been an automatic choice. Yet he did keep Olivier Giroud on the bench here, and Welbeck’s pace and movement were as evident as each quality was when a United player, but touch and composure were too often awry. There was a clumsy mis-control from an Alexis Sánchez pass, then a header that lacked power and went straight at David de Gea. Perhaps this lack of conviction caused Sánchez to refuse to play him in when racing at the United defence later in the contest.

5. This was more like old times – well, kind of

As these old foes who dominated the Premier League era, until Arsenal fell away around a decade ago, prepared for this first FA Cup meeting since February 2008, in the BBC Match of the Day studio Roy Keane was saying: “It’s great to look back at the clips, great memories of some great games. It was such a clash of characters in the contests. In those days, you knew if you got a result against Arsenal, you had a chance of winning a title. These games [now] are just lacking that bit of intensity.”
What unfolded was a peel-mell contest that was, actually, reminiscent of the yesteryear Keane spoke of. While it may have missed a clash of alpha males like the Irishman and Patrick Viera in those days of yore the atmosphere and spectacle did tingle the senses as then.

Kanye West Talks Ego, Elitism, Nicki Minaj at Oxford: I Wanted to Be 'Picasso or Greater'

 

Say what you will about Kanye West — and you most certainly will, in the comments section — but while he's impulsive and indulgent, he speaks his mind freely and it's a breath of fresh air in this media-trained modern world. Above all else, he is almost always right. Each time Kanye West delivers one of his "rants" or "meltdowns," if you listen, really listen, to what he is saying, there is always a nugget of truth hidden in the rhetoric.

Nothing was different when Kanye West spoke Monday at North West's future Alma mater, Oxford University, before a group of 350 students. His self-described stream of consciousness lasted for about 30 minutes and touched on a range of topics, from The Matrix, to ego, to materialism, to Nicki Minaj.

On his requirements when giving such an address:

"Everyone please be completely quiet, because I can literally hear a whisper, and it'll throw off my stream of consciousness, and when I get my stream of consciousness going that's when I give the best, illest quotes. Literally, a whisper can throw it off."

On ego:

"One of my biggest Achilles heels has been my ego. And if I, Kanye West, the very person, can remove my ego, I think there’s hope for everyone."

On Nicki Minaj:

"One of the most memorable things about [My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy] was Nicki Minaj, and the fact that she kicked my ass, on my own song, on one of the best albums…the best album – I’m just saying what the critics said – of the last 25 years. The best album of the past 25 years that I spent a year and a half making, out there. I was exiled from my country, it was a personal exile, but exile. To come back and deliver my magnum opus of a work, and to be out-shined … to be beat by a girl, basically. This was necessary. I think it was one of the most important points of working on that album, was to not stop her from her moment because of how good she is."

On his reputation and being called crazy:

"People say I have a bad reputation. I think I've got the best reputation in the building. They want you to have a reputation of tucking your black nail polish into your pockets and sitting in the corner of the class, and not fighting for your ideas out of fear of being ridiculed. ... That's one of my favorite ones… to be called crazy."

On his goals:

"My goal, if I was going to do art, fine art, would have been to become Picasso or greater. That always sounds so funny to people, comparing yourself to someone in the past that has done so much, and in your life you’re not even allowed to think that you can do as much. That’s a mentality that suppresses humanity."

And on his perception that The Matrix is the Bible of the post-information age:

"What I said was The Matrix is like the Bible of the post-information age. I compared it, like, when the hundred guys come at Neo, those are opinions, that’s perception, that’s tradition. Attacking people from every which angle possible. If you have a focus wide and master senses like Laurence Fishburne and you have a squad behind you, you literally can put the world in slow motion."

On President Obama:

"He calls the home phone, by the way."

On materialism:

"Time is the only luxury. It’s the only thing you can’t get back. If you lose your luggage – I’m not gonna say the obvious brand of luggage that I’d normally say because I’ve got a meeting with them soon – if you lose your expensive luggage at the airport, you can get that back. You can’t get the time back. It feels like people do everything in life to get this BMW, this Benz, to get this town-home, to get 2.5 kids exactly. One of them has to be small, y’know! And you’re looking for this moment where you sit in your BMW after all the work you’ve done and all the accolades you get, and you somehow think you’re gonna get that level of joy that my daughter had when she received [her favorite toy]."

Hundreds killed as Chad forces seize northeast Nigerian town

MAIDUGURI, Nigeria (AP) — Chadian troops have seized a strategically located northeast Nigerian town from Boko Haram, but not before the defeated Islamic extremists killed hundreds of civilians, Chad's military said.

The Chadian forces regained control Monday of Dikwa, a town occupied by the militants for weeks, said Chad's military spokesman Col. Azem Bermandoua.

 

One soldier was killed and 34 were wounded, most by a suicide car bomber, Bermandoua said on national television. Dikwa is at a crossroads to two border crossings with Chad and a route north to Lake Chad.

Separately, southwest of Dikwa, Nigerian troops Monday repelled an attack by Boko Haram on Konduga, killing more than 70 insurgents, according to a Nigerian corporal who helped defend the town. A security official confirmed the attack. Both spoke on condition of anonymity because they are not authorized to speak to reporters.

Boko Haram invaded the town between herds of cattle and a suicide bomber driving an explosives-laden car, the corporal said. But the military had been warned and were well prepared to drive back the insurgents, he said.

Konduga has been attacked many times in recent months because it is a final defense for Maiduguri, the biggest northeastern city 35 kilometers (25 miles) away that is the birthplace of Boko Haram.

Nigeria's President Goodluck Jonathan said Tuesday that "utmost care was being taken by the federal government to avoid collateral damage to the lives and properties of civilians as the military intensifies its ongoing offensive against Boko Haram." The military has been accused of gross abuses including indiscriminate killings of civilians. Jonathan claimed his government has investigated previous reports of abuse which "were mostly blown out of proportion for political reasons."

The United Nations said Tuesday that fighting in the northeast forced 16,000 Nigerians to flee across the border into Cameroon over the weekend. Some 1.6 million Nigerians have been forced from their homes and unknown hundreds of girls and young men have been kidnapped in the 6-year-old Islamic uprising by Nigeria's home-grown Boko Haram group.

 

The Islamic extremists' attacks have spread across borders into Cameroon, Chad and Niger, which are forming a multinational force to fight the militants.

International concern has risen along with fatalities in the uprising: Some 10,000 people were killed last year compared to 2,000 in the four previous years, according to the U.S. Council on Foreign Relations.

Is Shia LaBeouf's New Rattail the Worst Hairstyle of All Time?

While out and about in L.A. last week, Shia LaBeouf showed off a funky new accessory—a rattail! How wonderfully ’80s and retro! The actor, who is also sporting a pierced eyebrow these days, seems to be embracing his new rough and tumble look.

Will he come to regret it? Only time will tell. David Beckham recently expressed remorse for sporting cornrows to meet Nelson Mandela. Meanwhile, Justin Timberlake also told Playboy that his cornrows and matching denim looks were something that he’d rather forget. “God, I feel I’ve gone to therapy just to erase some of them,” he said. “The cornrows I wore with *NSYNC. That was pretty bad…I’d probably pay good money to get some of those pictures off the Internet.”

Here are some other curious hairstyles that male celebs should try and have erased from the face of the Earth.

Chelsea midfielder out for a month following meniscus surgery.

Jose Mourinho seemed to be in good spirits on Tuesday, and it's hard to blame him following his side's 2-0 victory in the Capital One Cup final on Sunday afternoon. Unfortunately, the manager had a bit of bad news on the injury front for us during his pre-West Ham presser, indicating that John Obi Mikel has undergone a surgical procedure and will be out of action for a bit:

"Mikel had a little surgery on his meniscus. We are expecting him to be out for about a month - one week is already gone. There is not too much optimism or pessimism."

"I would say [he will return] first week of April."

Just another blow in what's become a very stop-start season for Mikel.  The nine-year Chelsea veteran has made just four appearances since the new year, suffering a head injury and then a knee injury, which, as it turns out, required surgery.

And while Ramires seems to have finally kicked his own injury issues, we're once again one midfielder short. Luckily, Nemanja Matic only has one more match of his suspension to serve, but we'll all need to cross our fingers that he stays healthy and avoids any more encounters with Ashley Barnes.

7 fierce dress inspiration for the weekend.

Ankaras are fabulous print detailed fabric that keeps making grand statement, they are ever in and with modern chic styles they are crafted in these days, they are always desirable. Check out these inspiration for weekend style.

The weekend will always come in all its glory and you know what that means, parties; house warming; visitations and more. It is the time off everyone gets to do whatever they like (hopefully no one works this weekend!)

Dresses are smart choices, they are sexy, smart and feminine and when they come crafted in African prints even better.

These days 'Ankara' makes fabulous statements once constructed the modern way. For a stylish weekend, check out inspirations you can get hooked up with.

Shocking! Flavour and Anna Banner have broken up.

 Popular singer Flavour finally addresses his relationship with Anna Banner. After lots of speculation that the pair weren't as close as they used to, he tells all in an interview saying he is single and looking for love.


 

Talented Nigerian music star Flavour Nabania; real name is Chinedu Okoli, is an award winning singer, song writer, multi-instrumentalist and performer.This handsome dude, who is well rated and widely adored with his style of music all over the world, especially by ladies has been linked to some ex-Beautiful Queens.
 

 

 

The Glo ambassador spoke in an interview to City People in an interview on March 2, 2015 about his relationship status. Flavour spoke during the interview saying:  "Yes though I have a baby mama, I am still single and searching. Not that I wouldn't want to get married one day, I will definitely get married but I don't have the time to settle down for marriage now. I am all over the place pursuing my career. I will want to give my family attention and the best when I finally decide to settle down as my parents gave me. My family raised me up by monitoring my activities so I will like to do same for my family. But that is not my priority now because I need more time to plan for that and I need to pursue my career first"

 

Flavour who was once linked to dating former most beautiful girl in Nigeria ,Anna Banner declares that he  is still a single man and searching for love. He said there's no woman in his life at the moment despite the fact that he has a baby mama, Sandra Okagbue who had a baby girl for him in September 2014.